（by Jeannine Mancini Benzinga Staff Write，2025-01-11）Justine Musk, a writer and the ex-wife of tech mogul Elon Musk – the richest person in the world – offered a rare glimpse into the personal philosophy that shaped one of the world’s most ambitious entrepreneurs.
作家贾斯汀・马斯克 (Justine Musk) 是全球首富、科技大亨埃隆・马斯克 (Elon Musk) 的前妻。她提供了一个难得的机会，让我们一窥塑造了这位全球最雄心勃勃的企业家之一的个人哲学。
As the mother of Elon’s five children and someone who shared years of her life with him, Justine had an intimate and revealing perspective on the man behind Tesla, SpaceX and Neuralink. Speaking at a TEDx talk in 2014, she shared a key lesson she observed during their marriage – a lesson not just about ambition but about boundaries and focus.
作为埃隆五个孩子的母亲，以及与埃隆共同生活多年的人，贾斯汀对特斯拉、 SpaceX 和 Neuralink 背后的这个男人有着一个亲密而又具有启发性的视角。在 2014 年的 TEDx 演讲上，她分享了她在婚姻生活中观察到的一个重要教训 —— 不仅仅是雄心壮志，还有界限和专注。
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“I was married, I was married–” she emphasized the past tense – “to a man who became extremely successful. And as I watched him rise, I noticed two things. He worked very hard, much harder than your average bear. And he said no a lot,” she explained.
“我结婚了，我结婚了 ——” 她强调了过去式 ——“嫁给了一个非常成功的男人。当我看着他站起来的时候，我注意到两件事。他工作非常努力，比一般的熊要努力得多。他说了很多没有，” 她解释说。
Justine detailed how Elon’s ability to say no was instrumental to his success. “He said no to people who wanted his time, attention and energy. He said no in a way that protected his resources so that he could channel them toward his own goals. And I realized that behind every no is a deeper ‘yes’ to whatever it is that you do want,” she said. This realization was transformative for Justine, reshaping her understanding of boundaries, priorities and self-worth. “Your deep yes is your right to dream,” she added.
Justine 详细描述了 Elon 说不的能力是如何帮助他成功的。“他拒绝那些需要他的时间、注意力和精力的人。他说 “不” 的方式保护了他的资源，这样他就可以把它们引向自己的目标。我意识到，每一个 “不” 的背后都有一个更深层次的 “是”，无论你想要什么。这种认识改变了贾丝汀，重塑了她对界限、优先权和自我价值的理解。“你的深深的肯定是你做梦的权利，” 她补充道。
She explains that the ability to say no is something we learn very early in life. As she notes, her children assert their power by saying no. However, somewhere between the ages of eight and 13, she lost her deep, instinctive no – it was drowned out by external voices telling her she was “too much.” Justine points out that when people criticize you for being “too much” of anything, it can help you identify your greatest strengths.
她解释说，拒绝的能力是我们很早就学会的。正如她所指出的，她的孩子们通过说 “不” 来维护自己的权力。然而，在她 8 岁到 13 岁之间的某个时候，她失去了她深刻的、本能的否定 —— 被外界告诉她 “太过分了” 的声音淹没了贾斯汀指出，当人们批评你 “太多” 的任何事情，它可以帮助你确定自己最大的优势。
As a writer and a mother, she reflected on how saying no wasn’t just about asserting power but about embracing clarity and intention. “No is like a bright line that, when used properly, marks off where you end and others begin,” she added.
作为一个作家和一个母亲，她反思说 “不” 不仅仅意味着坚持权力，而且意味着拥抱清晰和意图。她补充说： “‘不’就像一条明亮的线，如果使用得当，它会标记出你的结束和其他人的开始。”。
Her insights resonate not only because they reflect Elon Musk’s meteoric rise but also because they speak to a broader truth about success. It’s not just about saying yes to opportunities but having the courage – and the wisdom – to say no to distractions.
她的见解引起共鸣，不仅是因为它们反映了埃隆・马斯克 (Elon Musk) 的迅速崛起，还因为它们揭示了更广泛的成功真相。这不仅仅是对机会说 “是”，而是要有勇气和智慧对分心的事情说 “不”。
This philosophy isn’t unique to Musk. Steve Jobs famously shared a similar sentiment in 1997: “Focus is about saying no and you have to say no. The result of that focus is going to be some really great products where the total is much greater than the sum of the parts.”
这种哲学并非马斯克独有。史蒂夫・乔布斯 (Steve Jobs) 在 1997 年也有过类似的著名观点： “专注于说‘不’，你必须说‘不’。这种关注的结果将是一些真正伟大的产品，其总量将远远大于部分产品的总和。”
Justine Musk’s reflections remind us that in a world overflowing with demands and opportunities, the power of no isn’t just about refusal – it’s about commitment to the things that matter most. For her, observing this principle in action gave her a new lens on her own life and a deeper appreciation for the art of setting boundaries.
贾斯汀・马斯克的反思提醒我们，在一个充满需求和机会的世界，拒绝的力量不仅仅是拒绝——而是对最重要的事情的承诺。对她来说，在行动中遵守这一原则，使她对自己生活有了新的认识，并对设定界限的艺术有了更深层次的欣赏。
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